Attitude
Attitude
ok So Attitude, Yes Its the Pride You Take on Yourself Of Being In a Certain Way, that Makes you feel complete or you get validation From other and Finnaly gets rewarded. Have some Domination so You feel good because others are Appreciating You, they are calling you good, awesome, cool, intelligent or somethin like that Along.
So, here is the point; Why You are doing it all wrong( Certainly not all cozz there are lot of good Intelligent guys ). Well You Take Pride on yourself, for being who you are, Completely appreciate your trueself and every part of you (Both the Physical and Non physical),Core belief that you are enough Thats What the Mentally and emotionally sound people does. But What people here are doing is that They think attitude is somethin when you beat others by doing something awesome, by achieving Something, or taking Excessive pride on self projecting others are nothin, only they are smart etc. So, getting validation from others by beating others thats Where most of the people are messed up, like they dont have their own value its called dependent selfworth depending on others to be called good.
So in the path along what people do is they try to achieve more, do somethin just to Project and Show others that they are awesome or whatever. So thats the Problem, Just be awesome and Nice you dont have to project or show to be awesome. You take pride on yourself but if you are doing somethin to beat others to show you are awesome, that could be dangerous.
why Dependent selfworth/Attitude is Pschycologically bad??
when You are Doing somethin to beat others and get attitude as Explained above then it becomes a Narssicistic Personality Disorder (NPD) issue. NPD not in the sense of selfishness but much much deeper sense, a Clinical term who are Mentally ill. Here i m not saying that you are mentally ill, But people who suffer from some degree of NPD, generally most of the people in Society are. well I suffered from it, and many people out there are.
what is NPD??
Before that You have to know about the Dark Triads Via Machiavellianism, Pschycopathy, and Narssicism.
Dark Triad is a set of Traits Used by Pschycolosists and Pschychiatrists in clinical world to describe people who are mentally ill, and are those people who are more involved in Criminal Cases.
Now, you see NPD is one of the Traits of dark Triad. Some of the symptoms of NPD People are they thinks of grandy ocean Fullfillness,demands to be recognized as superior without commencement or achievements, obssesd with fantacies of Unlimited succes, fame, power, unequal brilliance,Brutally Beauty or sexually attractiveness or ideal ever lasting passion & self esteem. They are also firmly convinced that he or she is unique and only be understood by or treated by or associated with only other special or unique or high status people or institutions. Requires excessive admiration, attention, affirmation or respected and Expectation of VIP treatment from others, interpersonally exploitative- using others to achieve his own, devoid of empathy, is unable or unwilling to identify with acknowledge or accept the feelings, needs, preferences, wishes, priorities, and choices of other.
Ok now you can understand or even figure out some traits out of your own life, how NPD is Symptomized and why is this Bad or treated as Bad in Pschycology and can Ruin your life and happiness, fullfillment and success never come with this. i will tell that later so Keep Reading.
ok So Attitude, Yes Its the Pride You Take on Yourself Of Being In a Certain Way, that Makes you feel complete or you get validation From other and Finnaly gets rewarded. Have some Domination so You feel good because others are Appreciating You, they are calling you good, awesome, cool, intelligent or somethin like that Along.
So, here is the point; Why You are doing it all wrong( Certainly not all cozz there are lot of good Intelligent guys ). Well You Take Pride on yourself, for being who you are, Completely appreciate your trueself and every part of you (Both the Physical and Non physical),Core belief that you are enough Thats What the Mentally and emotionally sound people does. But What people here are doing is that They think attitude is somethin when you beat others by doing something awesome, by achieving Something, or taking Excessive pride on self projecting others are nothin, only they are smart etc. So, getting validation from others by beating others thats Where most of the people are messed up, like they dont have their own value its called dependent selfworth depending on others to be called good.
So in the path along what people do is they try to achieve more, do somethin just to Project and Show others that they are awesome or whatever. So thats the Problem, Just be awesome and Nice you dont have to project or show to be awesome. You take pride on yourself but if you are doing somethin to beat others to show you are awesome, that could be dangerous.
why Dependent selfworth/Attitude is Pschycologically bad??
when You are Doing somethin to beat others and get attitude as Explained above then it becomes a Narssicistic Personality Disorder (NPD) issue. NPD not in the sense of selfishness but much much deeper sense, a Clinical term who are Mentally ill. Here i m not saying that you are mentally ill, But people who suffer from some degree of NPD, generally most of the people in Society are. well I suffered from it, and many people out there are.
what is NPD??
Before that You have to know about the Dark Triads Via Machiavellianism, Pschycopathy, and Narssicism.
Dark Triad is a set of Traits Used by Pschycolosists and Pschychiatrists in clinical world to describe people who are mentally ill, and are those people who are more involved in Criminal Cases.
Now, you see NPD is one of the Traits of dark Triad. Some of the symptoms of NPD People are they thinks of grandy ocean Fullfillness,demands to be recognized as superior without commencement or achievements, obssesd with fantacies of Unlimited succes, fame, power, unequal brilliance,Brutally Beauty or sexually attractiveness or ideal ever lasting passion & self esteem. They are also firmly convinced that he or she is unique and only be understood by or treated by or associated with only other special or unique or high status people or institutions. Requires excessive admiration, attention, affirmation or respected and Expectation of VIP treatment from others, interpersonally exploitative- using others to achieve his own, devoid of empathy, is unable or unwilling to identify with acknowledge or accept the feelings, needs, preferences, wishes, priorities, and choices of other.
Ok now you can understand or even figure out some traits out of your own life, how NPD is Symptomized and why is this Bad or treated as Bad in Pschycology and can Ruin your life and happiness, fullfillment and success never come with this. i will tell that later so Keep Reading.
Let me Tell you a story, 4/5 years ago when i was undergrad student I didnt know how things and society and thinking works, soon I began Feelin down mentally and emtionally with the pathetic Mindset, way of thinking of Neplese society that I was hypertensed For over 1 months. Then I realized i m Messed up in head if i dont do something Someday i will kill myself By then I started my own study on Neuropschycology, Pschycology i Went through buddhism, Hinduism Philosophy took Many Yoga courses, spent hundreds of hours practicing and trying to understand spiritual knowledges, Activities. Then, I explored breakthroughs of Reality, truth of Human pscgycolgy, world around and how we should behave and try living with real happiness and Fulfillment. So, its Quite good to say that I have known pretty much knowledge.
So, You see I m Speaking from My personal experience and i m Really Proud that this Piece of knowledge is realization of my own life that i believe can help you guys alot for easier life in some way.
why Narssicistic issue is dangerous for you n Society??
ok Let us Continue with why NPD is Bad, Back then When i was Struggling I didnt know my selfworth or values so in order to feel good or happy, to project i m good to society, I focused on Body language, personality, how i talk, work hard, Try to please other, trying showing I m good and in school Get good grades to achieve high status. But Still It didnt seem to work. No matter What i do I was Messed up in head And endup Emotionally, mentally unhappy that ultimately affected my academic performance greatly.
The root cause of Unhappiness among is that they put their selfworth on other people, things and what do i mean by that, For eg. some think i will do this and then i will be happy or buy this do this, impress her etc. and most importantly ego comes in, I will do this awesome or achieve this whatever fame success and beat them in order to show them how great i m and I will be dominant or awesome or I will be complete or enough. Thats like Putting your selfworth on others/ things like if you dont have your own value. And These are people with Narssicistic personaliy disorderness, They always attract wrong type of people while repelling good people in their lives naturally. So, It becomes a narssicistic issue when You feel unhappy or down when somebody Says you something bad, Thats dependent selfworth putting your values on external Influences. If People Feel low self esteem when They see other dominant people or if some other say Bad or does great things then thats dependent selfworth. And What people do is starts faking themselves to show worthy. You will never succed if you put your values on other. You should be completely in ease with your innerself no matter what happens outside and then, you will be completely emotionally and mentally healthy and that can only come by Fully appreciating your trueself, and core belief that you are enough.
And There are some people, Well i too used to, who fake themselves to project they are good to peole or society thats again dependent selfworth. What they do is they get somebody else's thought somebody else's action and put it in head and let self be that person. Be your trueself whatever thought or action you have its yours appreciate it, well you have to be aware of bad thoughts, accept it and filter it. it will be more genuine if you live with your true self, and Happiness, fullfillment success fllows to you easily.
So, You see I m Speaking from My personal experience and i m Really Proud that this Piece of knowledge is realization of my own life that i believe can help you guys alot for easier life in some way.
why Narssicistic issue is dangerous for you n Society??
ok Let us Continue with why NPD is Bad, Back then When i was Struggling I didnt know my selfworth or values so in order to feel good or happy, to project i m good to society, I focused on Body language, personality, how i talk, work hard, Try to please other, trying showing I m good and in school Get good grades to achieve high status. But Still It didnt seem to work. No matter What i do I was Messed up in head And endup Emotionally, mentally unhappy that ultimately affected my academic performance greatly.
The root cause of Unhappiness among is that they put their selfworth on other people, things and what do i mean by that, For eg. some think i will do this and then i will be happy or buy this do this, impress her etc. and most importantly ego comes in, I will do this awesome or achieve this whatever fame success and beat them in order to show them how great i m and I will be dominant or awesome or I will be complete or enough. Thats like Putting your selfworth on others/ things like if you dont have your own value. And These are people with Narssicistic personaliy disorderness, They always attract wrong type of people while repelling good people in their lives naturally. So, It becomes a narssicistic issue when You feel unhappy or down when somebody Says you something bad, Thats dependent selfworth putting your values on external Influences. If People Feel low self esteem when They see other dominant people or if some other say Bad or does great things then thats dependent selfworth. And What people do is starts faking themselves to show worthy. You will never succed if you put your values on other. You should be completely in ease with your innerself no matter what happens outside and then, you will be completely emotionally and mentally healthy and that can only come by Fully appreciating your trueself, and core belief that you are enough.
And There are some people, Well i too used to, who fake themselves to project they are good to peole or society thats again dependent selfworth. What they do is they get somebody else's thought somebody else's action and put it in head and let self be that person. Be your trueself whatever thought or action you have its yours appreciate it, well you have to be aware of bad thoughts, accept it and filter it. it will be more genuine if you live with your true self, and Happiness, fullfillment success fllows to you easily.
Binu
Refrences;
-David Tian, PhD and Aura University.
-Talks By Daniel Kahneman, Dan Ariely, Jonathan Haeit etc
Comments
Post a Comment